03793nam a2200445Ia 4500 ocn837575400 OCoLC 20200709055711.0 m d cr cnu---unuuu 130410s1999 mou ob 000 0 eng d N$T N$T 083411819X 9780834118195 9780834125780 (electronic bk.) 0834125781 (electronic bk.) (OCoLC)837575400 519950 (N$T) BV4905.2 REL 012010 bisacsh 248.8/66 23 N$TA Smith, Harold Ivan, 1947- A Decembered grief [electronic resource] : living with loss while others are celebrating / Harold Ivan Smith. Kansas City, Mo. : Beacon Hill Press of Kansas City, c1999. 1 online resource. Includes bibliographical references. Alter--Rather than Abandon--Traditions 16 -- Anticipate the Holidays 18 -- Appreciate the Grief Styles and Decisions of Others 20 -- Ask Your Church for Help 22 -- Be Alert to the Culture's Obsession with Excitement 24 -- Befriend Your Grief 26 -- Befuddle Someone 28 -- Carolize Your Season 30 -- Celebrate Sensitively 34 -- Consider the Needs of Everyone 36 -- Create New Traditions 38 -- Create Ornaments or Decorations That Symbolize Your Loved One and Eternal Life 40 -- Cry If You Want To 42 -- Define Your Boundaries 44 -- Do What You Need to Do 46 -- Donate to Your Church or a Charity in Honor of Your Loved One 48 -- Don't Fast-Forward to January 5 50 -- Forgive Those You Believe Are Responsible for the Death 52 -- Give Your Grief Its Voice 54 -- Give Yourself Permission to Say, "No," or "I'll Pass" 56 -- Guard Your Heart 58 -- Invite God's Help 60 -- Journal Your Grief 62 -- Keep the Future in Mind 64 -- Let Others In on Your Grief 66 -- Make Gratitude 68 -- Minimize the Seasonal Stressors 70 -- Miss the Invitations to Parties and Other Social Events 72 -- Nap 74 -- Network with Other Grievers 76 -- Nurture Yourself 78 -- Observe a Quiet Holy Day 80 -- Organize Your Living Environment 82 -- Prepare 84 -- Read 86 -- Remain Open to Seasonal Surprises 88 -- Remember Realistically 90 -- Resist the Temptation to Make It Up to Others for What They've Been Through 92 -- Rethink Your Holiday Shopping Habits 94 -- Say Your Loved One's Name 96 -- Toast Your Loved One 98 -- Try Events 100 -- Unplug the Christmas Mania 102 -- Use Some of Your Seasonal Decorations 104 -- Visit the Cemetery or Scattering Ground 106 -- Volunteer at a Social Service Agency 108 -- Vote Your Choices 110 -- Watch Children 112 -- Watch Out for Numbing Influences 114 -- Weigh Any Criticism of Your Grief Style and Holiday Decisions 116 -- Worship 118 -- Write a Year-End Letter to Your Deceased Loved One 120 -- "Yes" Invitations That Feel Right 122 -- "Zestize" Your Season 124 -- How to Pray This Holiday Season 126. Description based on print version record. Bereavement Religious aspects Christianity. Grief Religious aspects Christianity. Christmas Psychological aspects. RELIGION / Christian Life / Death, Grief, Bereavement bisacsh Electronic books. Print version: Smith, Harold Ivan, 1947- Decembered grief. Kansas City, Mo. : Beacon Hill Press of Kansas City, c1999 083411819X (DLC) 99038154 (OCoLC)41885824 EBSCOhost http://search.ebscohost.com/login.aspx?direct=true&scope=site&db=nlebk&db=nlabk&AN=519950 EBSCOhost EBSC 519950 cpp3356 02 N$T 52282 52282