02639cam a2200313 a 4500 12339129 AU-EpEBC 20130919210142.0 010308s2001 nyu b 000 0 eng d 2001267079 9780071385640 (OCoLC)ocm45816855 JBW JBW MIA DLC NEMB lccopycat 158.2 21 EW Braiker, Harriet B., 1948- The disease to please : curing the people-pleasing syndrome / Harriet B. Braiker. New York : McGraw-Hill, 2001. xvi, 284 p. ; pbk ; 24 cm. Includes bibliographical references (p. 283-284). ntroduction 1. The Disease to Please Triangle: The Price of Nice Part One: People-Pleasing Mindsets -- 2 Toxic Thoughts -- 3. It's Okay Not to Be Nice -- 4. Putting Others First -- 5. There's More to You Than How Much You Do -- 6. Nice People Can Say "No" Part Two: People-Pleasing Habits -- 7. Learning to Please: Approval Addiction - - 8.Why Can't You Get Your Parents' Approval? -- 9. Love at All Costs -- 10. Romantic Addiction Part Three: People-Pleasing Feelings -- 11. Once More,Without Feelings -- 12. The Fear of Anger -- 13. Words Can Really Hurt You -- 14. How Far Would You Go to Avoid a Confrontation? -- 15. Small Steps, Big Changes The 21-Day Action Plan for Curing the Disease to Please : A User's Guide to the 21-Day Action Plan Day 1: Don't Say "Yes"When You Want to Say "No" ; Day 2: The Broken Record Technique ; Day 3: The Counteroffer ; Day 4:What to Say If You Want to Say "No": The SandwichTechnique ; Day 5: The Reverse Sandwich Technique ; Day 6: Rewriting the Ten Commandments of People-Pleasing ; Day 7: Rewriting the Seven Deadly Shoulds ; Day 8: Taking Care of You ; Day 9: Talking Yourself Out of Approval Addiction ; Day 10: To Do or Not to Do, That Is the Question ; Day 11: Tag, You're It ; Day 12: It's Okay Not to Be Nice Day ; 13: The Anger Scale Day ; 14: The Relaxation Breath Day 15: Anger-Up Day 16: Anger-Down ; Day 17: TIME OUT ; Day 18: Stress Inoculation ; Day 19: Solve a Problem with a Friend, Not for a Friend ; Day 20: Correcting Faulty Assumptions ; Day 21: Celebrate Your Cure -- Epilogue: Some Final Thoughts Assertiveness (Psychology) Social desirability. Approval addiction. Publisher description http://www.loc.gov/catdir/enhancements/fy0611/2001267079-d.html Contributor biographical information http://www.loc.gov/catdir/enhancements/fy0611/2001267079-b.html ddc 37103 37103 0 0 ddc 0 0 100 Philosophy and Psychology MAIN MAIN OS 2013-09-19 The Human Condition Bookstore, Kew, Vic. 26.26 4 5 158.2/BRA 14383 2015-11-06 00:00:00 2015-06-18 1 55.00 2013-09-19 AM